Graduation from a school or program can inevitably bring on lots of planning for the future or thinking about where we have been. Sometimes we sabotage ourselves, when we start new phases of our lives when we start thinking about it all. By sabotaging I mean we set up little bombs to go off, like the enemy places in their fields to protect their property from invasion. Our little bombs are thoughts that set off destruction in our lives. They keep us from moving forward. Here is a list of the top seven self-sabotaging habits by Kelly Robbins:
1. Feeling you have no value. This feeling often comes from low self-esteem and comparing yourself to others.
2. Focusing on what is not working or not right.
4. Not doing anything because you are stuck in fear.
5. Having no purpose.
6. Getting distracted or losing focus.
7. Not finishing what you start.
Do you ever see yourself doing that to yourself? You don’t pick a certain college, because you feel you aren’t good enough. You focus on your negative qualities and don’t think you can survive in the new job you want. You procrastinate applying for college or that job. You don’t know what you are supposed to be doing in life, so you stall out feeling you have no real purpose in life. You let friends, work, or bad habits distract you from having a purpose or reaching goals.
The truth is that these kinds of personal weaknesses can actually be strengths for us. We just have to let God work through them and show His power and might in our lives. We have to let Him provide us with purpose and direction. Read II Corinthians 12: 9-10.
9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
He will take us in to our next phase of life, whether it be from High School Graduation to College or from a part-time job to a full-time career. All we have to do is ask Jesus to show us our purpose in life and commit to following Him and He will show us our purpose and provide what we need to accomplish it. The key is to deny self and let Christ live, then you will stop sabotaging yourself.